I start a lot of posts like this, but….Where has the time gone? I feel like I blinked and missed our first year of being married. We are no longer what people like to call “Newly Weds” which is nice for us. To be honest we never really felt like the typical Newly Weds because we have been together so long……..but it has been nice making reservation and placing orders with my new name.
That period after the wedding can be so strange. You come straight off this intense, crazy, busy and stressful time into essentially nothingness. It is like hitting a brick wall at 100mph. I have heard this called the Post Wedding Blues, and to be fair they are spot on. This time can make you feel like you are a bit lost without a project, but it is the perfect time to get both you and your new Mr or Mrs back to normal.
Here are my 5 tips for avoiding the Post Wedding Blues:
Read Your Guest Book:
This is the perfect time to read through all the beautiful (and funny) messages that your friends and family left you on your special day.
We opened a bottle of bubbly, put on some music and read all of our special messages. In usual us fashion, we played a game of ‘Guess the person’ by readying out the message and guessing who wrote it.
Make sure you get the tissues ready.
Don’t Look Back:
It is amazing to look back on your wedding and thing about the best day of your life, but please please do not think about the ways you could have made it better or different.
I am one of those people who will over think something until I ruin it, and for once in my life I didn’t do this! I look back on our day with one thing I would change, but it was out of my control and nothing I could really fix. However my beautiful Husband and my bridal party now know my “bloody save me” face.
This is the perfect time to take inventory of everything you have left over from the big day, and any gifts that need putting away.
It lets you get rid of anything from your old life that you want to get rid of, and make a list of anything you want to replace or fix.
During this time you should also get your wedding photographs back, so you can get them printed and in frames.
Now you have all this new time, spend it with your new Mr and Mrs. You don’t have 500 things on your to do list that will take up all your evenings and weekends, you can redirect that time to reconnecting.
We where super lucky because we took our Honeymoon straight after our wedding so we could reconnect during those blissful 2 weeks. I totally understand that not everyone is so lucky, so it is so important to reconnect with each other with any down time you have.
New Life, New Routine:
Husband and I sat down to work out our new routine. This sounds so dorky but we had 2 evening during the week, and 1 day out of our weekend dedicated to our big day for so long, the first Saturday we where back home I felt lost without 50 appointments to go to.
We have redirected this time to date night and a house clean up day, which makes me feel more productive and filled the gap with little effort.
Well, this post marks the end of Wedding 101. I hope you have all enjoyed this little series and that you learned a little something.
If you have any questions or need pointing in the right direction, just leave it in the comments below and I will connect with you as soon as I can.
Have a great weekend xXx hugs and love xXx